When she found out she was pregnant, she was terrified. Nadya was living at a house share with 6 other strangers, with community kitchen, living space, etc. She knew this wasn’t an environment where she could raise a baby, and she wasn’t sure she could raise a baby at all. She came to the Women’s Center - Lebanon for an appointment. She remembers the nurse sharing ultrasound pictures, and leading her through the process of finding care providers, and setting up health care coverage. She was no longer covered under her parent’s insurance.
She left that day feeling very uneasy and scared. She did consider other options. It was coming down to ending that life, or continuing it. Nadya made an appointment with Planned Parenthood. She went to the 1st of two scheduled appointments, paid her fee, and heard lots of stories from the other women in the waiting room. She kept the next appointment, although she didn’t want to .
She found that she couldn’t sleep well the night before, when she got up in the morning, she couldn’t move. Even though she had so much on
her mind, and wasn’t sure how she was going to do it, she just could not go to the appointment. She describes it as a huge weight off of her shoulders, a sigh of relief came over her.
She continued to receive follow up calls from the Women’s Center, helping her throughout the pregnancy and offering services. She was told everything was going to be okay, and she had much time to think things through. She arrived at a point of understanding. As soon as her baby was born, there was an instant connection.
I am 21, a senior here at Missouri S&T majoring in business and I’m scheduled to graduate in December. I come from a largely catholic family and the rest of my family who is not catholic is still pro-life, so on April 4, 2016, if anyone had asked me if I were to ever consider getting an abortion I would have immediately responded with no. On April 5, if they were to ask that same question, I would have had to take a lot more time to come up with that answer and even then, I’m not sure exactly what I would have said.
That day, I took my first two pregnancy tests, both of which came back positive. After the first test, I was just hoping for a false positive, as slim as the chances were. After the second, I didn’t even cry, I couldn’t cry. My emotions basically stopped in their tracks. Maybe it was just my brain still processing it, but I didn’t know how to react to that test telling me I was pregnant and 2-3 weeks pregnant at that. I immediately contacted the man who is now the father of my children and we ended up meeting that night to talk about what had happened, where things went wrong, and where we were going to go from there. I don’t remember much about that night because I finally allowed myself to cry and feel all of my emotions, but I do remember his only suggestion and that was abortion.
The next day, I was on the internet for a long time researching planned parenthood and everything about it and trying to find out costs, but came across the Pregnancy Resource Center in a google search and after reading about free pregnancy tests and free ultrasounds, I decided to make an appointment for the following day.
I still remember vividly my first appointment at PRC with Pam. We made it through her list of questions, barely from the amount of crying I was doing on my part, and I took a pregnancy test which of course came back positive. When speaking about my options, I remember telling her there was no way I could take care of a baby. I was still in college and had so many opportunities ahead of me. This wasn’t supposed to happen to me. My parents had raised me in a manner so that I didn’t end up pregnant at 21 like my mom had been with me and here I was, pregnant at 21. Honestly, I felt like a failure in that moment. I told Pam that I don’t think I had any other choice other than abortion, and the father had also been pushing it. But it was so hard to fathom that decision because I’ve always identified with the pro-life stance and should my family ever find out I got an abortion, their reactions would be anything but good. I don’t think I’d be able to be okay with myself afterward either. And as far as adoption, I couldn’t even consider it because I know I’d be too selfish to give up a baby I gave birth to. So here I was contradicting myself, telling Pam I couldn’t take care of a baby myself, but couldn’t be okay with myself if I had an abortion, but also wouldn’t be able to consider adoption. At the end of the appointment I remember her telling me to just take the time to think about my options and wait until I can get an ultrasound with Jane to make any decisions.
After I left that day, I went home and researched abortion as thoroughly as I could, and continued to put it to the back burner anytime the father brought it up to me. Fast forward to May 11th and I had my first ultrasound appointment with Jane. It took her a very short time to find the baby, and once she had, she pointed to something up on the screen and asked me if I knew what it was. I had never seen an ultrasound that early, so I had absolutely no clue and told her that. She then proceeded to tell me it was another sac, and there was two babies, not one. At that very moment, I’m pretty sure my heart stopped, my jaw dropped to the floor, and my eyes got as big as they could. I was freaking out about just one baby, and now my worries were doubled. Her and Pam were so excited for me and told me how twins were such a blessing and told me the rest of my family was going to be so excited especially now that there are two. I was still in shock the rest of the appointment, but remember hearing the babies’ heartbeats for the first time. It was an indescribable moment for me, and I believe it was the moment I unconsciously decided I could never get an abortion. When I left that day, I was still numb, but Jane booked me for another ultrasound a week later. I continued to return a few more times to the PRC for ultrasounds, and I began getting more and more excited for each appointment to see how the twins were growing. It amazed me how quickly they were growing in such a short time. All throughout this time, Pam and Jane were so excited for me and it was reassuring to have someone excited for me because at this point they were the only people who knew about my pregnancy other than the twins’ father. Pam sent text messages checking in on me, and it was so nice having someone there for me when I felt like no one would be there. It took a long time for my parents to find out about my pregnancy because I was terrified to tell them. It was even the anger I was afraid about; it was the sheer disappointment I knew they’d have.
It wasn’t until 14 or 15 weeks until my mom found out about my pregnancy. So, to have that support from Pam and Jane up until then and even past that point was so essential for me. At my 20-week anatomy scan at Mercy, my mom, sister and I found out both twins were girls. The first people I wanted to tell after I found out was Pam and Jane, so we headed to PRC right after my appointment so I could tell them. Pam was the only one there that day, but she told me she was excited and she would share the news with Jane. 8 weeks later, I finally announced my pregnancy to the rest of my friends and family who took the news wonderfully. Everyone was so excited for me, just like Jane and Pam told me they would be. If it weren’t for PRC and the continued support I received there, there’s a good chance I would have given into pressure from the twins’ father and went to Planned Parenthood to talk about my options and rather than just being a thought it my head, abortion may have been an actual option I was considering for my pregnancy. I may have been currently having to go through therapy rather than up here talking about my wonderful experience with PRC.
On November 4th I gave birth to my perfect baby girls, Izabella and Brielle. I was in love from the moment I laid eyes on both of them. The girls recently turned 4 months old and are growing quicker than I can keep up with. They are such a blessing to my life, and bring so much joy to myself and the rest of my family. I thank God often for my girls and for PRC who saved me and my pregnancy.
International Impact
In the latest edition of LifeLines, you read about Elizabeth's miraculous journey from unwed mother thousands of miles from home to pioneering a pregnancy help organization in her home country of Tanzania.
Heartbeat International provides training and support to pregnancy help leaders like Elizabeth in over 50 countries. The leader who mentored Elizabeth in Africa, in fact, heads one of Heartbeat International's eight joint-affiliation partners.
Each year, we continue to advance our mission to reach and rescue lives around the world. This work is so important because of the abortions committed each year, 98% occur outiside of North America.
We depend on the generous support of fellow lifesavers to ensure every country is reached with the gospel of life. We cannot continue this great work without you. Will you join us in this effort with a gift today?
Read more about Heartbeat's International Impact:
After Saving Her Baby in the US, Elizabeth is Shining Light on the Dark Continent
In Cuba, the Battle to Win Lives from Abortion Gaining Momentum
Over 30 Years, Hong Kong Adoption Agency Has Served 53,000 Women
Beautiful Feet Strengthening Pregnancy Help in Latin America, Africa
Two Sets of Twins Saved from Abortion in Macedonia
Flip That Clinic!
What could be more beautiful than seeing God's redemptive power in taking what was used for the evil of abortion and working it for the good of saving many lives? Time after time, pregnancy centers in Heartbeat International's network reclaim places of death and despair, bringing life, help and hope to women.
Dan Mohler, who directs the center in Maryland we told you about, said, "It feels like a fresh breath of healing and encouragement is blowing through Cecil County." What a great way to capture how God's Spirit has clearly moved in this community.
You play a vital role in this redemption when you give to Heartbeat International. With your help, Heartbeat International equips inspiring centers like these to run life-saving, world-changing outposts of hope even in places once dominated by abortion.
Join us today!
Read more about clinics that have been flipped:
Pro-Lifers Transform "Little Shop of Horrors" Abortion Mill into Life-Saving Center
"The Redemption has Begun": Pregnancy Center Opens Next to Infamous Abortion Clinic
"Pro-love" Pregnancy Center Takes Over ex-Planned Parenthood Building
After Shutting Down Abortion Mill, Pro-Life Doc Made an Amazing Discovery
Next Level
In LifeLines, we told you about Next Level CMS, which we introduced to our affiliates at our 2017 Heartbeat International Annual Conference in Chicago.
By harnessing the power of Big Data and creating the first-ever solution for best practices in the pregnancy help community, we truly believe Next Level CMS can revolutionize the entire movement—exponentially increasing our life-saving reach all over the world.
Next Level is also the first to offer pregnancy center clients a free app, where she can view (and share!) pictures and audio of her ultrasound, putting her in the driver's seat to her own pregnancy.
As John Murphy, a long-time leader in the high-tech Silicon Valley, told us when he first saw Next Level, "The whole concept allows the client to transform from victim into mother."
Click here to find out more about Next Level.
Launching the next generation of the pro-life movement.
Powered by Heartbeat International, Next Level CMS harnesses the power of big data to make local centers and medical clinics as effective as they can possibly be.
We believe we’re better together, and so is our data. Knowing the real-time trends of the larger life-affirming community is a crucial, yet untapped gateway to breakthrough success on the local level—until now, that is.
Crafted by a team of professional healthcare software developers, Next Level CMS also closes a key informational gap within local centers by streamlining intake and data collection to unleash the power of woman-centered service.
Help us take pregnancy help to the Next Level today!
Next Level Goal
ADVANCE THE PREGNANCY-HELP MOVEMENT – A 3 YEAR PROJECT
• Pioneer a new, game changing pregnancy-help solution
• Utilize next-generation technology
• Build from the ground up on the latest platform for long-term capabilities
Next Level Program
STREAMLINING CENTER EFFICIENCY
• Create a valuable center-management tool for seamless client interaction
• Increase productivity and efficiency
• Expand outreach of the movement to advance life successfully
REAL-TIME DATA
• Utilize innovative statistical research to increase effectiveness
• Increase performance within pregnancy-help organizations through focused metrics
• Provide proven and functional data for effective life-saving processes
Next Level Movement
THE CLIENT
• Increase reach to at-risk, expectant women
• Leverage mobile app to grow communications and education with clients
THE NATIONAL MOVEMENT
• Provide a modern approach for real-time information
• Use actionable intelligence for true risk factors and effective processes
• Utilize Next Level to save more lives across the nation
Women Need Next Level
Just a year ago, Janai’s world felt like it was coming to an end. Janai was only a few classes shy of earning her bachelor’s degree in Houston’s impoverished Fifth Ward when she was date raped.
In the blink of an eye, Janai went from the cusp of graduation to the specter of facing an unexpected pregnancy that threatened far more than her educational and career goals. A native of Washington, D.C., Janai was still relatively new to Houston and so distant from a family support structure that she was now facing the threat of homelessness.
No matter how many pregnancy tests Janai took, they all told her the truth she would eventually need to face head-on. And she was going to have to do it alone.
Janai began searching online for a free pregnancy test and free ultrasound near her. One search result stood out, however, and it was Houston Pregnancy Help Centers, a pro-life medical clinic with locations downtown and in the Fifth Ward. The organization offers free pregnancy tests and ultrasounds at both locations, so Janai made an appointment at the Fifth Ward site.
“I was praying that she was going to say ‘No,’” Janai says of that initial ultrasound. “It changed my life. It was amazing. I heard a heartbeat, and it wasn’t just any heartbeat, it was a heartbeat that my body created.”
In time, the center would connect her to a community resource called Lifehouse, a maternity home for expectant mothers. Janai lived there until she gave birth to baby “Marz” in November. She then walked with her degree in marketing in late December, marking the end of an eventful year for both mother and child.
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Every morning I wake up to my precious human alarm clock. There’s no need to set any other alarms because she’s on a two hour wake schedule. Then it is time for a diaper change, bottle feed, burp, feed again, burp, then sleep again. Finally, this is my chance to get dressed! I rush to take care of myself before her next wake up. This is when it hits me, my life is not about me anymore, and I wouldn’t change it. I made the best decision to parent my child, and I am thankful for the help and support that I received from Houston Pregnancy Help Center.
Before I found out I was pregnant, I was living my life happily. I had just reconnected with God and was pursuing my life dreams. I grew up in one of the poorest neighborhood in Washington D.C., so my father always motivated my sisters and I to achieve higher education and plan for a career. With only one semester left, I was preparing to graduate from Texas Southern University in Houston with a degree in Marketing. I was excited to be the college graduate in my family! In my opinion I was on top of the world, but in reality, someone else’s world was just beginning.
After a few suspicions about being pregnant, I found the Houston Fifth Ward Pregnancy Help Center and went to confirm my pregnancy. I met with the case manager there and she welcomed me with a smile and encouraged me that they were there to help. When she told me that my pregnancy test was positive I was in complete denial because pregnancy for me equated to homelessness, no support, and an obstacle to finishing college! I also knew that my family would be extremely disappointed because this is the last thing they would expect from me. The case manager was very helpful and was willing to listen to me. I never felt judged. Even though I tried to keep it together on the outside, I was overwhelmed with emotions on the inside. She brought a proper perspective to my situation by giving adequate information on all my options, and I never felt rushed.
I knew that if I ever was to conceive a child I would choose life, but there were still many important decisions to be made. Would I be able to care for this child? Can I support him/her? Will I be we willing to make myself second for the rest of my life? The choice for me was the hardest decision I would ever have to make because the innocent baby blooming inside my belly was the outcome of date rape. This created emotions I’ve never experienced before, and I didn’t know how to cope with this situation of being violated, so I didn’t tell anyone. The pregnancy center helped me see what reality would look life if I were to choose either route of parenting or adoption. They even told me about the abortion procedure and the risks involved. I also expressed concerned about housing because I knew I couldn’t keep a baby on campus, and the case manager provided several maternity housing options. I visited the help center again the next week to get a free ultrasound, and I got to see my little baby for the first time. I had never met people who were so genuine and caring. The pregnancy center staff drew me in and made me feel comfortable enough to ask questions and sign up for their birthing and childcare classes the center offered. The classes were very helpful because before them I didn’t even know how to change a diaper! I went to all six classes and learned how to provide love, praise, and discipline to my child. Furthermore, the Fifth Ward Help Center also helped me by providing necessary infant care items.
After I decided to parent my child and for the last 4 months of my pregnancy I went to live at Lifehouse, one of the maternity homes the Pregnancy Center referred to me. There I was able to open up, receive counseling, and learn to heal. The people in these two organizations changed my perspective on life and people by making me feel loved and appreciated. This impacted my life in undescribed ways because I’ve never had that support growing up. It also allowed me to learn to love myself again and have room to also fill the heart of my child with love.
Currently, my child is 2 months old and is the most precious gift I have ever been blessed with. Even though she is now born, I continue to communicate with the people at the pregnancy center and maternity home. Not only because they offer post- partum resources, but because I feel connected with the people I will keep in contact throughout my life. I know that life would have been different and more difficult without the resources and love I was given. My precious one and I were able to honorably walk across the stage during graduation with pride knowing we have made it this far. I am always happy to share about the Houston Fifth Ward Pregnancy Center to any woman in need!
A: Babies Go to Congress is one of the most powerful pro-life events on Capitol Hill. It’s a great way for you to connect with your lawmakers and share the great work you are doing to serve women in their state or district. It’s also an opportunity for lawmakers to hear directly from a client (their constituent) who has been served by your center.
The event sometimes coincides with the March for Life, providing a unique option to attend both pro-life and pregnancy help missions.
A: Any pregnancy help organization currently affiliated with Heartbeat International may participate. We recommend the Executive Director or President attend along with a client and her child. Due to limited space, we discourage large groups of center staff and families from attending.
A: In the fall, Heartbeat staff review all interest forms. Those selected will be contacted for details and information about their client. After gathering these details, a commitment form will be sent to collect staff and client information, including travel plans. As the event approaches, more details will be emailed to help with preparation.
A: Heartbeat International will cover:
The pregnancy help organization covers:
Day 1 – Orientation
Day 2 – Event
A: Choose someone with a compelling story who is comfortable speaking publicly. If she’s inexperienced, coach her beforehand. Clients can be of any age, pregnant, or have older children. Pray for guidance in your choice.
Each client must sign a release form and provide her story and a photo. These may be used for promotion unless she opts out.
A: Appointments are scheduled with your Senators and two members of Congress representing your area. When the legislator is unavailable, meetings will be held with key staff members.
Each team is accompanied by a Heartbeat representative. The representative introduces Heartbeat and then the client shares her story. The center director follows with an overview of their work, then presents a community impact report. Meetings last 15–20 minutes.
A: Heartbeat reserves a hotel block. Provide arrival/departure dates and room needs via the commitment form. All rooms go on Heartbeat’s master bill; you’ll receive an invoice afterward. A credit card is needed for incidentals.
Options: Reagan National (DCA), Baltimore-Washington (BWI), or Dulles (IAD). DCA and BWI have easy metro/train access to Union Station. All three have taxi/Uber service.
Orientation/Dinner: Business casual
BGTC Meetings: Business attire (no jeans) and comfortable shoes
When applicable - March for Life (optional): Warm, casual clothes and comfortable footwear
A: The event concludes around 3:30 p.m. on Day 2. You may extend your stay to explore D.C.
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Nikki Pinkley
I had just graduated high school, and in many ways I was about to be a typical freshman in college, entering the academic world with my own dreams and ambitions. But, I found myself in disbelief of the results from the pregnancy test that I held in my hand.
Thousands of thoughts were racing through my mind: “How would my parents react? What would my Church youth group do? How was I supposed to have a life? What about college? How would I have a career?”
My parents encouraged me to go to Options Pregnancy Clinic when I was only a few weeks pregnant. Little did I know how my experiences there would help shape my future. The staff and volunteers were very supportive of every decision, and with me every step of the way.
Options Pregnancy Clinic helped me prepare for successful parenting by encouraging a healthy pregnancy and then by providing parenting education for my newborn. They even helped supply baby items (which was a big financial help). I gained a new perspective, knowledge, and confidence in my ability as a parent through my experience at the clinic.
A major part of my story is how Options helped me continue with my plans for college.
As a single mother, I struggled with being a new mom and a college student. But because I had the benefit of family support and my cheerleaders from Options encouraging me to “hang in there,” I was able to push through.
I so respect and appreciate the volunteer mentors who helped me find balance in my life. As I watched them model professionalism and grace, it further solidified what I had always known about myself—someday I hoped to work in a helping field like this.
So, as a sophomore I declared a major in psychology, marking the beginning of my long pursuit to becoming a professional counselor. I wanted to help others in the way I was helped at Options.
I worked hard to earn my bachelor’s degree in psychology, before earning a Master’s of Science Degree in Counseling Psychology. Especially when I think back to the beginning of my life as a college student and a new mom, I can hardly believe that now I am currently working toward a doctoral degree. I have loved my 8-year career as a Licensed Professional Counselor, and I currently have a private practice counseling center, Restoring Wellness Counseling, LLC.
As a mother to a beautiful 14-year-old daughter and wife to a great husband, I view life from a new perspective. My relationship with my daughter has taught me how to be patient, hard-working, and motivated. I am thankful for everything, especially my little girl, Alexis, who is growing into a beautiful, talented, smart young lady (and I’m not just saying that because I’m her Mom!).
My hope is that every young woman facing an unplanned pregnancy will find the help she needs to face the challenges of being a single mom. It’s not easy, but I am living proof that your future is what you make of it.
Sometimes you just need someone to believe in you. In Branson, Missouri, I found the help I needed—plus a lot of inspiration—at Options Pregnancy Clinic.
Acacia Boyes
My name is Acacia Boyes; I live in Casper, Wyoming, where I work as an administrative assistant at an oilfield company.
When I first found out I was pregnant, I thought it was a mistake. I was instantly overwhelmed by fear and anxiety, and thought maybe it was too early on for an accurate test. Either way, I needed to know for sure.
My concerns about having a child were mainly focused on issues going on in my life at the time. I was no longer seeing the child’s father, I’d recently lost my job, and I didn’t even have a consistent roof over my head.
My greatest fears about bringing a child into this world were the fact I was going to be doing this 100 percent by myself, and fear of how my friends and family would react to the news. They knew I wasn’t ready, either physically or mentally, to bring another human being into this world.
When I first saw the blue positive symbol on my pregnancy test, the thought of having an abortion immediately crossed my mind. I had never been one to consider abortion, but that changed the moment I found myself staring at that positive test.
In all honesty, I wasn’t even considering parenting this child in those early moments. I started looking online for abortion clinics and information, while the father of my child pushed for an abortion, reinforcing my persistent fear of failure.
In fact, my child’s father kept reminding me of how chaotic my life already was, and made it clear to me that choosing to parent my child would be the worst decision I’d ever make.
As I searched for options, I ran across the website and phone number for True Care Women’s Resource Center. I called and made an appointment, hoping against hope that I my test was a false positive and I would have to carry out the only decision I felt I had.
While my pregnancy test was being confirmed, I had time to talk with the client advocate at True Care. As emotions flooded every inch of my body, she listened to me. She heard all about my fears, my worries, and my struggles—both past and present.
She knew what I was facing. She listened attentively without passing judgment on my thoughts and concerns.
I told her I felt God had given me a second chance at life because I had recently survived an accident. Maybe this pregnancy had something to do with what God was doing. She handed me a Bible, as well as pamphlets on abortion, adoption and parenting—all three of which outlined the physical and emotional affects abortion can have on women.
I began to see I had purpose. The people at True Care ultimately helped me choose to carry my baby to term as I realized my purpose along the way. No matter how alone I felt at the beginning—and, at times, throughout—there were people there for me.
True Care gave me hope in my future. They helped me see that my decision regarding the outcome of my pregnancy would affect me for the rest of my life. The obstacles I faced at the time were only temporary. This child was the best gift I could ever have been given, and this was all happening for a reason.
I knew my child and I were destined for great things, whether we were alone or not.
The moment I saw what looked like a little poppy seed on the ultrasound and the little flicker of the heartbeat, I felt so sad that I had even thought about aborting this child. I had a sense of hope—everything was going to be okay.
My experience True Care is something I can’t put entirely into words. They helped me every step of the way, providing referrals for doctors, apartments, health and emotional issues, counseling, even exercise tips, nutrition facts and other resources. I was so blessed to be a part of the Baby and Me program, which educated me on every stage of my pregnancy. True Care also provided me with prenatal vitamins, as well as other things I lacked.
They gave me the hope and determination I needed to be the best parent possible.
As my pregnancy progressed, my relationship the father of my baby dwindled. Yet, as that relationship fizzled, my strength and ambition grew. I was given a sense of empowerment: I was carrying a child who would ultimately save my life.
Having my baby made numerous differences in my life. Everything from who I hang out with to what daily decisions I make have changed since I became a mother. My child’s needs come before my own, and they have ever since I first saw him on the ultrasound screen. What I saw that day was the beginning of the rest of my life.
My hope for my son is that he never gives up, that he never takes the easy way out—no matter how difficult the process may be. I hope he grows up to believe in himself as much as I believe in him.
My dream is that my sweet baby will fulfill his purpose as I’m fulfilling mine in raising him. My little boy brightens a room with his contagious smile, and his laugh makes my world a better place.
Everything happens for a reason. Axton is my reason.
If I had not come to True Care, I know I would now be filled with regret. Between parenting and abortion, I know I would’ve chosen the latter. True Care gave me all the resources I needed to make the best decision not only for my future, but for the future of my unborn child.
To any woman who is going through an unexpected pregnancy, because of pregnancy centers like True Care, you are never alone. From the second you walk in their doors, there is someone to talk to, as well as programs and resources that offer hope that transform your fears into confidence.
They help you to know you are never alone. The love and attention True Care gave me and my child provided a sense of comfort and relief in making a decision that will change our lives forever, and that is true for every woman who finds help at True Care and other places like it.
Now that my son is here, they have continued to be a part of our lives, and they’re still available to answer any questions I have.
The day I walked into True Care, I walked into a facility full of strangers. Now, when I walk through those doors, I enter a place filled with family.
Laura Lysek Spagur
When I realized I was pregnant, I was ashamed and didn’t want anyone else to find out.
I had gone back to school to get my nursing degree, and I already had two children. I was done having babies. When I told my boyfriend, he encouraged me to get an abortion, so we made an appointment together.
On the sidewalk in front of the abortion clinic, a kind woman approached me and spoke the words that I already knew were true: “There is hope.”
She took me to Life Choices Women’s Clinic, where I saw Cash for the first time on the ultrasound.
Life Choices gave me the help and support I needed to stay in school. Today, I’m a nurse, and I know that for Cash and myself, there is so much hope for both of us.
Kynnedi Brown
I was 17 years old and halfway through my senior year of high school when I found out I was pregnant. My boyfriend was leaving for basic training in a month and my parents were going through a divorce at the time.
I felt that telling them I was pregnant would be a burden on their lives. I was petrified at the prospect of having to tell all three of the most important people in my life that I would have to give up three track scholarship offers I had worked so hard for to raise a child.
For a while, I was in denial. I couldn’t bring myself to accept that I would be bringing a new life into this world alone.
I was seven months pregnant when I told my boyfriend. He was out of state in military training, so there was nothing for him to do. He was just as scared as I was, if not more so. His first reaction was to “get rid” of the baby. He wasn’t ready to be a father and had no interest in becoming one.
For a pregnant woman, that was a hard pill to swallow—I had already fallen so deeply in love with my baby.
At eight months, I finally told my mom I was pregnant when I came home late one night after a 14-hour day of work. Even though I was still playing sports, my mom noticed that I was gaining weight like I never had before. I just felt like I couldn’t bring myself to tell her myself.
When the truth finally came out, my mother fell to the floor and cried. She asked my sister and brother if they knew about the baby, but since I hadn’t told them either, that just brought on more tears.
After that initial shock, my mom was concerned that my stomach was still so small even though I was eight months pregnant. I hadn’t taken any prenatal pills, I hadn’t been to a doctor, I didn’t know if the baby was healthy or even what gender he or she was. I only knew my baby was alive by every single one of the heart-filling kicks.
My mom and I started calling clinics to find out about our options. I was so far along that there weren’t many options but to have this baby. Because I was so far along and hadn’t had any prenatal care, I was considered high-risk and couldn’t find a doctor to take me into their care.
That’s when we found Ms. Brenda at Pregnancy Decision Health Centers. She was able to calm my mom down and give her enough peace of mind to sleep—which she hadn’t been able to do for days. Ms. Brenda told us we wouldn’t have to pay to be seen, and that was a huge stress-reliever for us, especially because we didn’t have insurance.
Ms. Brenda could see how terrified my mom was about the baby’s health. She took us to do some measurements of the baby, and everything looked great. She also gave us some information about PDHC and how they could help us.
At one point, we were considering adoption. We knew a happily married couple that wanted a child but didn’t have the option to have one naturally. Ms. Brenda was extremely supportive, telling us that adoption could be as open as we wanted. She also reassured us that making an adoption plan would bring untold joy to a family.
Ms. Brenda sent me home with information I needed to navigate my situation, and she made it clear that there was no way in this world she was going to let me do it alone.
Before we left, she let me pick out something for the baby from their mom store, and I picked a pair of little white booties that I still have today. Those booties were the first sign of hope to me that I could be a great mom to this baby.
Ms. Brenda left me feeling that no matter what decision I made, I would always have support and someone to talk to without being judged or viewed as another teenage statistic. Ms. Brenda and PDHC also referred me to an amazing ob-gyn who helped me through the last month of my pregnancy with the utmost respect and care.
That doctor is one of the most kindhearted people I have ever met, and I truly thank him for saving Rowan’s life and my own. At my first appointment, we met Rowan, my beautiful and very healthy baby boy. He was absolutely stunning.
Rowan has turned my life around a complete 180. He is the biggest motivation when it comes to school or working I remind myself that everything I do is for him to live an even better life than I did. Waking up to his enormous bright smile reminds me to never give up, and to push through when things get tough.
Without a doubt, he is the most blissful blessing that was ever given to me. Seeing him laugh, play, and walk all through our home is so captivating. They’re memories I will cherish for the rest of my life.
I’ll be forever grateful for Ms. Brenda. She always told me that in life, we always have a choice, and that I didn’t have to give up my dreams and aspirations just because I was bringing a new life into the world.
I have decided to continue on with college, I married my U.S. soldier, and have celebrated Rowan’s first birthday.
Without Ms. Brenda and PDHC, I truly don’t believe my son would be alive. Ms. Brenda loves every minute of her job and it truly shows. God has given her a gift and it is a blessing to be around her. Her job is to empower and change the lives of women, and when I met her, she did just that.
A year later, she still contacts me to check up on my family and offer to help in any way that’s possible. She gave me the strength to follow my dreams of being an ob-gyn, and reminded me to never give up, because God will always make a way.
Halie Hale
It was Friday, Feb. 13, 2015, a normal day like any other. I got out of school at 10:25 a.m., went to my internship and worked. When I got off work, I went home and waited for my boyfriend, Jordan, to get off work and come home.
It had been over a month since I’d had a period, so Jordan was bringing a pregnancy test over. I took it, and it was positive.
How could it be? I was 17, worried and scared.
I called Your Choice Pregnancy Resource Center and made an appointment, and thankfully, Jordan stuck by my side. My first appointment was Feb. 20. I walked in, filled out the forms, and was called to the back to see a nurse.
Another positive test.
But, before we took the test, the nurse opened her Bible and helped me to understand that—no matter what—God still loved me. Then, we looked at the different stages the baby goes through in the womb. What a miracle!
After our talk, where the nurse answered my questioned, prayed with me and helped to calm my fears, I went into another room to get an ultrasound. There he was: eight weeks in the womb, a tiny little peanut. I couldn’t believe my eyes.
I left feeling like I was on top of the world, but as the day wore on, I was worried about Jordan and I telling our parents. Still, I knew I would live, and it would be alright in the end. When we did tell my parents, my mom took it lighter than I thought she would, but my dad didn’t speak to me for a little while.
There were times I wanted to give up, but I knew God was with me, and so was Jordan. Our baby boy was born Sept. 10, 2015—three weeks early, but healthy, and I wouldn’t change it for the world. We named him Jordan Colin Hale, “J.C.” for short. He’s healthy, happy and our little miracle.
I hope that every pregnant, worried and scared teenage girl has the opportunity to go to a pregnancy center. I had a great, helpful, and unforgettable experience. Everyone was so helpful and kind.
Jordan and I got married Oct. 3, 2015. I was a senior in high school when I got pregnant, but I made straight A’s and graduated. Now, I’m going to college. To all the worried pregnant teenage girls, do not give up. A baby may change your life, but that doesn’t mean your life is over.
We’re active members of our church and we are putting God first in our family. I thank God for a place like Your Choice PRC. Without them, who knows what path I would’ve taken?