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Duration: 6 Weeks | 6 Modules + LIVES on Fridays*
Hosted by: The Maternity Housing Coalition

About This Course

Are you thinking about starting a maternity home but aren’t sure where to begin? Blueprint for Starting Your Maternity Home is a comprehensive 6-week course designed specifically for pregnancy help organizations ready to take the next step in serving women facing unplanned pregnancies.

This foundational course walks you through the critical components needed to launch a successful and sustainable maternity home. Through six focused modules, you’ll gain the tools, strategies, and confidence to move from vision to action.

What You’ll Learn

• Week 1: Starting Point
  Clarify your "why," explore different maternity home models, and assess your readiness for this important work.

• Week 2: Board Model & Responsibilities
  Learn how to structure a strong, mission-driven board and define its essential roles in governance and support.

• Week 3: Structuring the Home
  Conduct a needs assessment, craft a compelling mission statement, and begin developing a framework that reflects your community and values.

• Week 4: Building & Maintaining a Team
  Discover how to recruit, train, and sustain a healthy and effective team of staff and volunteers.

• Week 5: Property Considerations
  Understand zoning laws, location requirements, safety standards, and other key factors when choosing and preparing your property.

• Week 6: Resident Care
  Learn best practices for supporting residents through case management, program development, house guidelines, and holistic care.

*Plus, join us live each Friday for a discussion of that week's topic and a Q&A. This is the perfect time for participants to ask questions and join an open forum with other start-ups.

Whether you’re in the early stages of praying for this mission or already gathering a team, this course equips you with the practical knowledge and strategic insight to launch a maternity home that makes a lasting impact.

Hosted by Thrive Southwest Florida

Join us for our second regional event for maternity housing organizations!

WHERE

Thrive Southwest Florida
907 SE 5th Ave, Cape Coral, FL 33990

WHEN

June 10, 2025
10 a.m. - 3 p.m.

Come at 9 a.m. for coffee and networking

Lunch provided.

by Valerie Harkins, Executive Director of the Maternity Housing Coalition

I’ve noticed a subtle but powerful pattern after years of walking alongside maternity homes across the country: the organizations that tend to thrive—not just survive—are deeply connected to others who do the same kind of work.

In fact, the difference is striking. Homes that weather economic instability, staff transitions, and shifting cultural tides often have something in common: consistent, intentional relationships with other maternity homes. They are not isolated. They are known.

This may sound like a soft metric—connection, relationship, community—but in this work, it’s essential. Maternity housing is uniquely complex and deeply spiritual. It requires strength and tenderness, policies and prayer, grit and grace. Not every leader understands that tension, but another maternity home does.

When homes connect with one another, something shifts. A director no longer feels like she’s holding the whole world together on her own. A new staff member finds wisdom in someone else’s hard-won experience. A program director rethinks burnout because she saw someone else model the Sabbath well. These relationships aren’t just emotionally beneficial—they’re structurally stabilizing.

In short, being known by others in this work makes your home stronger.

The body of Christ is not meant to function in silos, and neither is our movement. God has designed us for interdependence—not only within our own teams, but across the entire network of homes and ministries around the world.

I truly believe the next chapter of strength for maternity housing will not come from any single home’s innovation, but from the shared wisdom of many homes, leaning in together. This is not a sentimental idea—it’s a strategy for survival, and more importantly, for flourishing.

If you’re looking for a place to start, I invite you to join our Affiliates-Only Facebook Group, where we foster authentic connection among homes like yours. It’s also where we share invites to our networking meetings throughout the year, which are gatherings that remind us we’re not alone, but understood, and part of something far greater than we could build by ourselves.

Let’s build that strength together.

by Valerie Harkins, Executive Director of the Maternity Housing Coalition

As leaders and advocates in the maternity housing space, understanding the generational differences between Millennial, Gen Z, and Gen Alpha women is essential to providing responsive, compassionate, and effective care. Each generation has been shaped by unique societal forces, technology, and cultural movements. These factors influence how they view the world, identify themselves, engage with spirituality, and interact with support systems.

This article explores the defining traits of Millennials, Gen Z, and Gen Alpha, with a particular focus on how their differences impact the design and delivery of maternity housing programs. Most importantly, it offers research-backed strategies for adapting our programs to meet the needs of Gen Z women and mothers, who now make up the majority of women entering our homes.

Generational Snapshots: Who Are They?

Millennials (born approx. 1981–1996)

• Worldview: Shaped by 9/11, the 2008 recession, and the rise of the internet.
  
  
• Religion: Many Millennials identify as “spiritual but not religious.” Pew Research finds that 29% identify as religiously unaffiliated.
  
  
• Identity: Value authenticity, self-expression, and purpose-driven work.
  
  
• Experiences: Came of age with dial-up internet but adapted quickly to tech advancements.
  
  
• Behavior & Trends: Highly educated, skeptical of institutions, more likely to delay marriage and childbirth, and value social justice.
  
  

Gen Z (born approx. 1997–2012)

• Worldview: Defined by the internet age, social media, school shootings, climate anxiety, and COVID-19.
  
  
• Religion: The least religious generation to date; more likely to identify as agnostic, atheist, or spiritual-but-not-religious. Barna research shows that only 4% of Gen Z holds a biblical worldview.
  
  
• Identity: Embraces fluidity in identity—including gender and sexuality. Mental health, diversity, and inclusion are top priorities.
  
  
• Experiences: Digital natives. Socialized online. Often experienced isolation, especially during critical developmental years due to the pandemic.
  
  
• Behavior & Trends: Experience high levels of anxiety and depression; value transparency, inclusivity, and social activism. Less trusting of authority but very peer-influenced.
  
  

Gen Alpha (born approx. 2013–2025)

• Worldview: Still forming, but early data shows they will be the most technologically immersed generation. AI, climate change, and post-pandemic realities are shaping their upbringing.
  
  
• Religion/Identity: Still largely dependent on parental influence but projected to be even more secular and globally aware.
  
  
• Trends: Education and media are highly personalized. Influenced by short-form content (TikTok, YouTube Shorts), interactive tech, and values-based branding.
  
  

Implications for Maternity Housing: Gen Z vs. Millennials

While Millennials may still be present in our homes, Gen Z now makes up the majority of women entering maternity housing programs. This shift requires us to re-evaluate our approaches—from program structure to communication styles.

Key Differences That Affect Care

Suggestions for Effective Programming for Gen Z Moms

1. Prioritize Mental Health & Trauma-Informed Care

Gen Z has been dubbed the “anxious generation.” According to the American Psychological Association, Gen Z is twice as likely as Millennials to report poor mental health.

What Works:

• Trauma-informed staff training
  
  
• On-site counseling and teletherapy options
  
  
• Wellness routines (journaling, mindfulness, peer support groups)
  
  
• Peer-led mental health education workshops
  
  

2. Revamp Spiritual Formation Models

Traditional Bible studies may not resonate. Gen Z is curious but deeply skeptical of religious institutions.

What Works:

• Story-based teaching rooted in personal experience
  
  
• Focus on spiritual conversations over religious instruction
  
  
• Emphasize identity, belonging, and purpose through a biblical lens
  
  
• Use visual storytelling, music, and creative expression
  
  

3. Design for Digital Natives

Gen Z learns and connects through screens. Programs must accommodate short attention spans and tech fluency.

What Works:

• Short, video-based lessons (think: 5–10 minute devotionals or parenting tips)
  
  
• QR codes linked to resources or testimonies
  
  
• Digital journaling or app-based self-reflection
  
  
• Instagram-style boards for visioning or goal-setting
  
  

4. Normalize Identity Conversations

Gen Z is navigating fluidity in gender, sexuality, and identity. While maternity housing may not affirm all ideologies, it must engage these women with grace and empathy.

What Works:

• Non-judgmental language in intake and interactions
  
  
• Emphasize God-given identity, value, and dignity
  
  
• Use peer mentors who model integrity and compassion
  
  
• Create space for questions and honest conversations
  
  

5. Offer Customizable Life Skills Tracks

Gen Z expects personalization. One-size-fits-all programming often leads to disengagement.

What Works:

• Modular curriculum based on goals (e.g., employment, education, parenting)
  
  
• Self-paced learning options
  
  
• Incentive-based engagement (e.g., digital badges, milestone rewards)
  
  

6. Center Peer Influence and Mentorship

Gen Z relies heavily on peer feedback and social proof. Programs should foster authentic community and peer leadership.

What Works:

• Peer-led support groups or house meetings
  
  
• Older Gen Z or Millennial alumni mentors
  
  
• Testimony-sharing and story circles
  
  
• Collaborative goal-setting and accountability partners
  
  

Looking Ahead: Preparing for Gen Alpha

While Gen Alpha moms are not in our homes yet, their formative years are underway. They will expect hyper-personalized, on-demand, emotionally intelligent environments. Programs that begin adapting today—leaning into tech, emotional literacy, and spiritual resilience—will be best positioned to serve tomorrow’s mothers.

Gen Z mothers bring unique challenges and profound opportunities. They are bold, curious, digitally native, and fiercely values-driven. To serve them well, maternity housing leaders must reimagine programming that is trauma-informed, spiritually engaging, tech-forward, and relationally rich. By doing so, we not only meet their immediate needs—we shape a generation of resilient, faith-rooted, and empowered mothers.

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Sources

1. Pew Research Center (2019). Defining generations: Where Millennials end and Gen Z begins.
   https://www.pewresearch.org
   
2. McCrindle Research (2020). Generation Alpha Report.
   https://mccrindle.com.au
3. Barna Group (2021). The Open Generation: How Teens Around the World View God, Scripture, and the Church.
   https://www.barna.com
   
4. Pew Research Center (2021). About three-in-ten U.S. adults are now religiously unaffiliated.
   https://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2021/12/14/about-three-in-ten-u-s-adults-are-now-religiously-unaffiliated/
   
5. American Worldview Inventory (2023). Only 4% of Gen Z Hold a Biblical Worldview. Cultural Research Center, Arizona Christian University.
   https://www.arizonachristian.edu
6. American Psychological Association (2018–2023). Stress in America Survey.
   https://www.apa.org/news/press/releases/stress
   
7. McKinsey & Company (2021). True Gen: Generation Z and its implications for companies.
   https://www.mckinsey.com
8. Deloitte (2023). Global Gen Z and Millennial Survey.
   https://www2.deloitte.com
   
9. Pew Research Center (2022). Teens, Social Media and Technology 2022.
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10. Common Sense Media (2023). The State of Mental Health in U.S. Teens.
    https://www.commonsensemedia.org
11. Barna Group (2022). How the Next Generation Engages with Faith. 
    https://www.barna.com/research/gen-z-engagement/
    
12. Education Week (2021). Teaching Gen Z: What Educators Need to Know About Today’s Students.
    https://www.edweek.org

 Episode 1

by Valerie Harkins, Executive Director of the Maternity Housing Coalition

Running a Christian maternity home is a sacred calling—one that requires wisdom, discernment, and an ever-present commitment to the well-being of the women we serve. However, the complexity of house rules and resident handbooks can sometimes hinder rather than help. As leaders, it is essential to periodically review and simplify our guidelines to ensure they align with our mission, support trauma-informed care, and create a healthier environment for both residents and staff.

The Benefits of Fewer, More Impactful Rules

Maternity homes often accumulate an extensive list of rules over time, each intended to address specific behaviors or concerns. While structure is necessary, an overabundance of rules can create confusion, resistance, and an atmosphere of legalism rather than transformation. Research in trauma-informed care suggests that individuals who have experienced significant hardship—such as those in crisis pregnancies—respond better to environments that prioritize clarity, consistency, and emotional safety over rigid control (SAMHSA, 2014).

Here’s why fewer, well-enforced rules lead to better outcomes:

1. Increased Adherence – Too many rules can overwhelm residents, leading them to disengage. Trauma-impacted individuals often struggle with authority due to past experiences; simple, clear expectations increase the likelihood of compliance (Bloom, 2010).
2. Enhanced Mission Alignment – Every rule should directly reflect your home’s mission. If a rule does not serve a clear and meaningful purpose, it may be more of a hindrance than a help.
3. Reduced Staff Burnout – Staff members are tasked with enforcing policies, and an overly complex rulebook increases their workload and stress. Simplified guidelines free them to focus on relationship-building and discipleship rather than constant policing.
4. Greater Resident Growth – A structured yet flexible environment allows residents to make meaningful choices, take personal responsibility, and develop life skills that will serve them beyond their time in your home.

Begin reviewing and simplifying your guidelines in four easy steps.

1. Evaluate Your Current Rules

A practical first step is to review each rule through the lens of your mission and impact. Ask:

• Does this rule directly support our core values?
• Is it necessary for safety, order, or spiritual growth?
• Is it enforceable in a fair and consistent way?
• Does it encourage autonomy and personal responsibility?
• Is it communicated clearly and simply?

Rules that do not meet these criteria may need to be revised or eliminated. This review should also include staff and, when appropriate, resident feedback to ensure rules are realistic and effective.

2. Review Your Rules' Biblical Foundation for Clarity and Integrity

Scripture speaks to the importance of simple, truthful, and consistent communication. Jesus instructs in Matthew 5:37, “Let your ‘Yes’ be ‘Yes,’ and your ‘No,’ ‘No.’ For whatever is more than these is from the evil one.” A maternity home should be a place where both residents and staff trust that expectations are clear and that enforcement is fair. If rules are too numerous or inconsistently applied, trust erodes, leading to unnecessary conflict and stress.

Additionally, Colossians 3:21 warns, “Fathers, do not embitter your children, or they will become discouraged.” While maternity home residents are not children, the principle remains: an environment with excessive, unclear, or inconsistently enforced rules can breed discouragement rather than growth.

3. Embrace the Role of Trauma-Informed Care

Trauma-informed care acknowledges that many maternity home residents have experienced significant emotional, physical, or spiritual wounds. A punitive, rigid structure often reinforces their past experiences of instability and rejection. Instead, clear and meaningful rules...

• promote predictability, which is crucial for emotional safety
• encourage respectful dialogue, rather than a power struggle
• allow natural consequences to shape growth instead of unnecessary punitive measures

By embracing a trauma-informed approach, maternity homes create an environment where healing is prioritized over control, ultimately leading to better long-term outcomes for residents.

4. Implement Thoughtful and Clear Communication

Once rules are streamlined, they must be communicated effectively. Consider implementing the following:

• A concise handbook that explains each rule’s purpose
• Regular orientation sessions to reinforce understanding
• A consistent enforcement approach so that residents know what to expect
• Opportunities for open discussion that allow residents to ask questions and seek clarification without fear

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1. SAMHSA’s Concept of Trauma and Guidance for a Trauma-Informed Approach | SAMHSA Publications and Digital Products. (2014, October). Samhsa.gov. https://library.samhsa.gov/product/samhsas-concept-trauma-and-guidance-trauma-informed-approach/sma14-4884

‌2. Bloom, S. (2010). Organizational Stress as a Barrier to Trauma-Informed Service Delivery. Springer. https://connectingparadigms.org/wp-content/uploads/2019/05/21360-Organizational_Stress_as_a_Barrier_to_Trauma-Informed-Bloom.pdf

Hosted by St. Raymond's Society (SRS)

Join us for our first regional event for maternity housing organizations!

WHERE

St. Raymond's Society Event Center
300 Portland, Columbia, MO 65201

WHEN

March 25, 2025
10 a.m. - 3 p.m.

Come at 9 a.m. for coffee and networking

Lunch provided.

by Valerie Harkins, Executive Director of the Maternity Housing Coalition

In maternity housing, providing a safe and nurturing environment goes hand-in-hand with giving residents a voice. Honoring each woman’s dignity requires valuing her unique perspective and ensuring she feels heard. After all, the mission of a maternity home is to serve residents—not the other way around. This foundational commitment, established at incorporation and upheld for donors and constituents alike, keeps the organization focused on its true purpose: service through ministry to residents.

Structured resident surveys can be instrumental in fostering this environment. Anonymous surveys with open-ended questions allow residents to express their thoughts freely, supporting both transparency and safety. However, concerns inevitably arise: "What if residents lie or don’t tell the full story?" or "What if they manipulate responses to create triangulation?" Acknowledging these realities—along with the possibility that staff voices might go unheard—does not diminish the value of feedback. In fact, it strengthens it by promoting checks and balances between residents and staff. The survey process itself, done with integrity, serves as an accountability measure that protects both parties.

Beyond immediate insights, surveys reveal trends over time. While one resident’s perspective may be unique, repeated themes across surveys highlight patterns that can guide program adjustments. Additionally, survey data provides essential outcome measurements, serving as a valuable tool for evaluating program efficacy and reporting to donors, board members, and staff.

Example survey questions that invite honest reflection include:

• "What has your experience in the home been like this month?

• “What helped you?”

• “What did not help you?”

• “Did you feel safe this month? Why or why not?”

• “Is there anything on your mind that you’d like us to know that you might not feel comfortable sharing in person?”

• “What has your spiritual experience been like this month?”

• “Did you learn anything new this month? If so, what did you learn?”

• “What do you feel you need most right now?”

• “How was your sobriety journey this month?”

• “How many close friends do you have right now?”

• “What are your goals for the future?”

• "What do you feel you need most right now?"

Through structured feedback, maternity homes can fulfill their mission of dignified service, ensuring the organization remains a sanctuary of support, integrity, and growth.

by Valerie Harkins, Director of the Maternity Housing Coalition

Imagine for a moment living in a world where every word, gesture, and decision is controlled by someone else. It sounds terrifying, right? Unfortunately, for many people, this is their reality in relationships. Domestic violence isn’t just about the bruises you can see; it often hides in more subtle, yet powerful ways that can shatter a person’s spirit. As leaders and workers in maternity housing, understanding these hidden dynamics is crucial if you want to support the residents in your care effectively. One helpful tool to guide us in this understanding is the Power and Control Wheel, which reveals the various tactics abusers use to dominate their partners.

What is the Power and Control Wheel?

The Power and Control Wheel* breaks down the different tactics abusers employ. Sure, physical violence is often the most visible form of abuse, but it usually stems from a pattern of other controlling behaviors. Here are some key parts of the wheel:

- Coercion and Threats: This is all about using fear or intimidation to control someone, like threatening to hurt them or their loved ones.

- Emotional Abuse: Think of it as undermining someone’s self-worth through insults or manipulation.

- Economic Abuse: This is where one partner controls the money to keep the other from being independent.

- Using Children: Sometimes abusers will use the kids to manipulate their partner, making threats about custody or using them as pawns.

These tactics often work together to create a cycle of abuse that can feel impossible to escape. By recognizing these patterns, we can offer better support to the residents in our care.

Spotting Signs of Domestic Violence

As you interact with residents, keep an eye out for signs that they might be experiencing control in their relationships. Here are a few things to watch for:

- Changes in Behavior: If someone seems anxious, scared, or withdrawn, especially when discussing their partner, that’s a red flag.

- Isolation: Notice if a resident seems cut off from friends or family as this can indicate they’re feeling alone. This is often a result of gaslighting and manipulation in conversations with her boyfriend about others in her life. 

- Money Worries: If a resident appears confused about their finances or expresses anxiety about money, it might point to economic abuse. Please be particularly cognizant if the resident has past experience in the sex industry in any manner.

Creating an Educational Plan

Recognizing the signs is just the beginning. We need to create a plan to help residents understand these patterns in their own relationships. Here’s how we can do that:

- Workshops and Discussions: Host regular sessions where residents can learn about what makes a relationship healthy or unhealthy, using the Power and Control Wheel as a guide.

- Handouts and Resources: Provide easy-to-read materials that can help residents reflect on their situations.

- Casual Conversations: Encourage open discussions about relationships. Creating a safe space for sharing thoughts and feelings is key.

Be Gentle and Sensitive

When discussing domestic violence, it’s essential to approach the topic with sensitivity. For many residents, these controlling behaviors may be all they’ve ever known. Here are some ways to keep the conversation gentle:

- Make It Normal: Frame relationship discussions as something everyone or many people experience, not just a problem for a select few.

- Acknowledge Difficult Feelings: It can be overwhelming to learn about these patterns. Validating their feelings will help build trust.

- Take It Slow: Introduce concepts of power and control in small, digestible pieces, giving residents time to process everything.

Keep the Conversation Going

Encourage residents to notice when relationship boundaries are crossed by having ongoing conversations. Invite them to share their thoughts and experiences as they learn what makes a relationship healthy. Over time, this will help them develop a natural awareness of these important issues.

As leaders and workers in maternity housing, you play a vital role in helping residents understand their relationships. By recognizing the signs of domestic violence and creating educational plans, you empower residents to stand up for themselves and break the cycle of abuse. With kindness and continuous conversations, you can create a supportive environment that fosters healing and growth. Together, we can make a difference!

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*Power and Control Wheel:

Copyright by the Domestic Abuse Intervention Project
202 East Superior Street, Duluth, MN, 55802
218-722-2781

by Valerie Harkins, Director of the Maternity Housing Coalition of Heartbeat International

Leading a maternity home is both incredibly rewarding and undeniably tough. You're there for women at some of the most vulnerable times in their lives, and your impact extends far beyond today. Remember, your work touches not just the mothers you support, but their children too. It's a legacy that spans generations.

The Big Picture: Two Lives at a Time

Think about this: every woman you help today influences two lives—hers and her baby’s. The support you provide helps these women find stability and strength, setting up their children for a brighter future. Your efforts are like planting seeds that will grow into strong, healthy families. Galatians 6:9 says, "Let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap if we do not give up." Keep this close to your heart as a reminder that your work truly matters.

Tackling Challenges Head-On

We know the job comes with its fair share of challenges. Residents can exhibit difficult behaviors, often rooted in past trauma. It's tough, but your patience and empathy are crucial in their healing process. Progress isn't always straight, but every small step forward is a victory.

Frequent changes to programs can also feel overwhelming. Just remember, adapting to meet your residents' needs isn't a sign of failure, it's a sign of effective leadership. Programs that can evolve are the ones that make the most impact. Stay focused on your mission and the outcomes you want to achieve. Second Corinthians 12:9 reminds us that, "My grace is sufficient for you, for My power is made perfect in weakness." Lean on God's strength as you navigate these changes.

Avoiding Burnout: Practical Tips

Burnout is real and can sneak up on you and your team. Acknowledging the emotional and mental load is the first step in addressing it. Consider shorter shifts or rotating schedules to give your staff more frequent breaks. Housemoms, in particular, often feel the strain by day three. Creating a supportive environment where everyone feels comfortable expressing their needs can make a big difference. Remember Matthew 11:28, "Come to Me, all who labor and are heavy-laden, and I will give you rest." Encourage your team to find their rest in Christ.

Staying True to Your Mission

Amid all the challenges, keep your mission front and center. Your work is transformative, and the importance of what you do cannot be overstated. While methods may change, the core mission remains the same: empowering women and nurturing healthy, thriving children. Philippians 4:13 says, "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me." Trust that your efforts are not in vain and that God is with you every step of the way.