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Movimento per la Vita
Movimento Per la Vita Italiano (MPVI) is the most prominent Italian Pro-life Association. It has the mission to defend and promote the value of human life “from the conception to the natural death” without exceptions.
Since 1975, MPVI has been actively working nationwide to promote the right to life and the value of human dignity. It meets pregnant women who need help with tailor-made empowerment projects: every story, every woman, is different and unique.
Solidarity, democracy, non-confessional purpose, and specificity are the other values inspiring the Movement service.
At a glance:
- 32.500 mothers served each year,
- 11.934 mothers assisted in 2019-2022 through SOS Vita (Italian Option line),
- 10.000 volunteers across the nation,
- 431 pregnancy help centers (Centri di Aiuto alla Vita - CAV) and local MPV centers,
- 64 maternity homes,
- 2 MOVIT, pro-life university groups (in Florence and Rome),
- 1 “Equipe giovani,” i.e. the national youth group.
We welcome every mother with difficulty, maybe hesitating to keep her baby.
Our challenge is reaching many more mothers through SOS VITA service.
Let Us Help Her.
SOS Vita
In addition to CAVs and Homes, the MPV offers the Option Line called "SOS VITA," which includes a free line (+39 800 813 000) and an online chat (sosvita.it). Both these services are open 24/7.
It is the best solution to overcome the fear of judgment and the shame of some girls and still offer them listening until the last moment before choosing their pregnancy.
Carlo's Life: A Gift for Everyone
In 2019, during the pandemic, Beatrice was only 19 years old. She had recently started college and dreamed of becoming a professor of Math. Caught by the sudden pandemic, she isolated herself from her family in the city where she studied. She approached that neighbor, a handsome young man, a late-year student in law school. She got pregnant. Desperate and isolated, Bea surfed on the Internet, found a contact, and found SOS VITA. Thanks to the support of our volunteer, called like her mother, she felt supported and decided to keep her baby. At the baptism of Carlo, Beatrice invited all her uncles, even those with whom there had been misunderstandings. Thanks to the birth of little Carlo, the parents met her uncles, they clarified themselves, and today the family is more united than before.
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Centros de Ayuda para la Mujer Latinoamericana
CAM is a life-affirming network of 98 pro-life ministries in 20 Latin American countries, founded in Mexico in 1989.
CAM serves pregnancy help ministries by assisting their affiliates in fulfilling the mission that God has given to reach, rescue, and renew their communities for life by serving abortion-vulnerable women and their families and working to restore God’s plan for our sexuality. CAM is committed to defending human life from the moment of conception to natural death across Latin America.
CAM also provides valuable training, such as cooking and sewing, to women in low income situations who are facing an unexpected pregnancy. (See testimony below)
CAM is a joint Affiliation Partners with Heartbeat International. Heartbeat supports their efforts to equip and encourage a regional network of local, grassroots efforts to promote life-affirming alternatives to abortion.
Client Testimony:
"I went to the clinic Santa Catarina (Mexico City) because I decided to get an abortion, but CAM (Woman Help Center) convinced me to have the baby. Now I have a job thanks to CAM."
–Veronica
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Pregnancy Help Australia
Pregnancy Help Australia is a national body that provides support, education and resources to life-affirming pregnancy support centres throughout Australia.
The services we provide to Pregnancy Support Centres allow them to better assist women and families who may be experiencing difficulties as a result of a pregnancy or suffering a pregnancy loss.
Our Vision:
- Supports agencies to be dynamic, compassionate organisations committed to the provision of professional services for all pregnancy related issues
- Supports agencies that provide information and support for women, their partners and their families when they are experiencing distress or hardship as the result of pregnancy or any pregnancy loss.
Our Mission:
- Pregnancy Help Australia is dedicated to ensuring that quality pregnancy support services are available to everyone
- Pregnancy Help Australia provides support to individual agencies that offer positive choices for women, their partners and their families.
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Pregnancy Support Services of Asia (PSSA)
Pregnancy Support Services of Asia (PSSA) is a non-profit interdenominational organization of life affirming pregnancy resource centers across Asia.
PSSA, founded by Lily Perez and headquartered in Manila, takes on the daily challenge of pregnancy support, thanks to the grace-filled vision that God gave to Lily over a decade ago.
PSSA has joined hands with Heartbeat International in a joint-affiliation agreement that makes more life-saving services available to PSSA’s pregnancy help centers.
PSSA affiliates offer concrete services and support to people who are experiencing or have experienced problem pregnancies.
VISION: An environment where every human heart is cherished and protected – within the womb and within strong families. – from Heartbeat International
MISSION: To reduce abortion and strengthen the family in Asia by establishing, developing, and supporting life-affirming pregnancy services through prevention, crisis intervention and healing.
VALUES: PSSA upholds the intrinsic value of every human life; and promotes the special place of sexuality within marriage, children and within strong families.
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Pregnancy Care Canada
Pregnancy Care Canada (formerly CAPSS) was formed in 1997 to provide a Canadian national association dedicated to encouraging, equipping and partnering with local Pregnancy Centres.
Pregnancy Care Canada provides leadership development, operational standards, staff, and volunteer training along with spiritual encouragement to over 70 affiliated Centres.
Their purpose is to help assist local pregnancy centers to reach and compassionately care for clients facing issues related to unplanned pregnancies, post-abortion stress, and sexual health.
Pregnancy Care Canada is a joint Affiliation Partners with Heartbeat International. Heartbeat supports their efforts to equip and encourage a regional network of local, grassroots efforts to promote life-affirming alternatives to abortion.
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Association for Life of Africa
Barbra Nalavwe Mwansa, founded the first pro-life pregnancy center in Zambia in 1998, Silent Voices, which has now saved 7,000 babies from abortion and spread the message of life to more than 25,000 young people in the nation of Zambia.IAs the Silent Voices ministry grew, they began training people who were passionate about saving lives and desired to open centers in their own countries across the continent of Africa. In 2009 Barbra and the Silent Voices team held the first PAN- AFRICAN Conference. Since then there has been an increase of centers in Zambia and throughout Africa. Because of the demand for training indigenous workers and the great results that followed, Association for Life of Africa was formed by Barbra and her team to continue serving those who seek to start and run life-affirming pregancy help ministries in Africa.
AFLA is a joint Affiliation Partners with Heartbeat International. Heartbeat supports their efforts to equip and encourage a regional network of local, grassroots efforts to promote life-affirming alternatives to abortion.
Client Testimony:
My name is Tamara. My mom died when I was 6 years old. My dad decided to return to Nigeria after my mother's death but my grandmother would not allow him to take me. I stayed with my grandmother until I was 9 years old. At that time I went to live with my uncle so that I could start going to school since my grandmother had no means to support me. While my aunt was away on a trip my uncle came into my room and raped me every night until she returned. I started feeling weak and sick. I later found out that I was pregnant. When my aunt came back, I knew had to tell her what had happened. She was angry but could not report the case to the police. She asked me to report the rape to the police for fear that the husband would harm her. My uncle was arrested and has remained in custody.The government removed me from my home and took me to Silent Voices Maternity Home. My blood level was only 4 mills, I had no strength. In the maternity home, I was cared for and delivered a baby boy. I named the baby Michael resembling to the Arc angel that fought the powers of darkness. My baby is two weeks old. I am happy to see this baby besides the pain and the suffering. I thank Silent Voice and AFLA for their love and support.
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Pregnancy Help Network - South Africa
Since 2000 Pregnancy Help Network (formerly Africa Cares for Life) has been affirming life through developing and equipping an effective network of 70 pregnancy help centers in South Africa to reach women and families facing an unexpected or crisis pregnancy.
We provide assessments and guidance to emerging pregnancy help NPO’s and mentor existing organizations through networking and workshops that teach train and develop South Africans to be a nation that affirms and values life.
We source, develop, and provide a wide range of training material, brochures, booklets, books, and equipment to enhance our service delivery.
An annual conference introduces pregnancy centers to the latest trends and developments in the field of women, children, and family care.
Our range of training includes personal and leadership development and various counseling skills to equip and empower pregnancy care centers to assist families affected by a crisis pregnancy.
Client Testimony:
I had three clients who changed their minds about abortion after counseling. Once was a student who was convinced that she cannot keep her baby and that her parents would not accept her pregnancy. After our counseling, she talked with her mother and both parents responded differently than she had expected. (Counsellor from Options Care Centre...George...South Africa)
Pregnancy Help Network convenes an annual conference that facilitates networking opportunities with centers in SA which help each center to learn what has been tried and is working and where we can make improvements in our own centers. Through Pregnancy Help Network we also have access to resources and training from other organizations and countries that they partner with. These ‘’tools of our trade’’ are a huge benefit for our centers in terms of helping a client to consider a life-affirming solution to her crisis pregnancy. (Pregnancy Resource Centre...Amanzimtoti...South Africa)
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Heartbeat International Responds to NARAL Report
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Tuesday | March 10, 2015
Contact: Jay Hobbs, Director of Communications and Marketing
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COLUMBUS, OHIO – Responding to a report released Monday by abortion advocacy group NARAL Pro-Choice America, Heartbeat International President Peggy Hartshorn, Ph.D., pointed to what she calls the fundamental difference between “true” and “false” reproductive health.
NARAL’s report, “Crisis Pregnancy Centers Lie: The Insidious Threat To Reproductive Freedom,” represents several years of opposition to the 2,500 pregnancy help organizations operating independently in the United States, most of whom are fully funded by local and private donors.
In its 24 pages, NARAL’s report features 107 citations. However, 92 of those (86 percent total) come from its state and local chapters, and eight more are from Planned Parenthood’s research arm, The Guttmacher Institute.
“The sole purpose of every pregnancy help organization is to provide the love and support every woman deserves in an unexpected pregnancy,” Hartshorn said. “We exist to empower a woman to make the healthiest choice for all involved. That is why NARAL attacks us with these false and flimsy allegations.”
Hartshorn, who attended the Diocesan Family and Life Congress in Manilla over the past weekend and trained Heartbeat International joint affiliation partners serving throughout the Philippines, pointed to the good work of pregnancy help organizations, both in the U.S. and all over the world.
She is author of Heartbeat International’s top-selling volunteer training resource, The LOVE Approach—first published in 1994—which teaches a truly woman-centered approach.
“No woman should ever feel so alone, coerced, or hopeless that she ends her child’s life through abortion,” Hartshorn said. “That’s why, in every corner of the globe, Heartbeat International affiliates and others provide all the facts about pregnancy—including the baby’s development and the many serious physical and psychological dangers of abortion.”
“This report is an attack on the truth and true reproductive freedom. Only a fully informed choice can be a true choice.”
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Heartbeat Responds to Death of Dr. John C. Willke
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Monday | Feb. 23, 2015
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COLUMBUS, OHIO – Responding to news of the death of Dr. John C. Willke, a key pioneer in the pro-life movement, Heartbeat International President Peggy Hartshorn, Ph.D., has issued the following statement:
“We are all saddened to hear of the loss of Dr. Jack Willke, who many call the father of the pro-life movement,” Hartshorn said. “When I became president of Heartbeat International in 1993, we became colleagues as leaders of national and international organizations, but before that, he was a dear friend and a mentor to me.”
Willke, 89, died Friday, Feb. 21, at his home, according to a press release from Life Issues Institute, an organization he and his late wife, Barbara, founded in 1991.
The Willke family’s work in the pro-life arena began in the 1960s, when the couple started producing and distributing slides and brochures detailing the facts about fetal development and abortion procedures. Dr. Willke served two terms (1980-83, 1984-91) as president of the National Right to Life Committee.
His 1985 book, “Abortion Questions & Answers: Love Them Both,” helped shape the national pro-life movement’s dialogue to what Heartbeat International has called a “woman-centered approach.” Heartbeat International honored Dr. Willke with its “Servant Leader Award” in 2003.
“We owe so much to those early medical leaders, who knew that true healthcare for women involved respect not only for the woman, but her unborn child. What a tremendous example they have been—and are—as we continue to carry on their legacy.”
Hartshorn, whose career in the pro-life field began as president of the Columbus, Ohio, chapter of Right to Life, worked closely with Dr. and Mrs. Willke when both were involved with the organization. It was Willke’s brochure and slides, “Life or Death” that served as Hartshorn’s initial introduction into pro-life work.
Hartshorn appeared in “Dr. Willke, A Pro-Life Legacy to Last a Lifetime,” a documentary on Dr. Willke’s life and legacy produced by Life Issues Institutes in Jan., 2015.
“I remember so many things about Dr. Willke, and one of those things is the example of family that he embodied. He and his late wife, Barbara, were together in this movement, and I believe that is such an important thing as we commit ourselves long-term to stand for life and a culture of life. We need the help and support of families in this movement.”
About Heartbeat International
Heartbeat International is the first network of pro-life pregnancy help organizations founded in the U.S. (1971), and now the largest and most expansive network in the world. With nearly 2,000 affiliated pregnancy help locations—including pregnancy help medical clinics (with ultrasound), resource centers, maternity homes, and adoption agencies—Heartbeat serves on all six inhabited continents to provide alternatives to abortion. For more information, see www.HeartbeatInternational.org.
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Heartbeat International Releases 2014 Annual Report
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Tuesday | Feb. 10, 2015
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COLUMBUS, OHIO – Heartbeat International, the world’s largest and most expansive network of pregnancy help centers, medical clinics, maternity homes and non-profit adoption agencies, has released its 2014 Annual Report, which reviews the organization’s 43rd year of life-affirming work.
Highlighting the group’s list of 2014 achievements, its 24/7, 365 pregnancy helpline, Option Line®, answered its two millionth contact since it launched in 2003. After answering initial questions via phone, text, live chat or email, Option Line consultants seek to route a caller directly to his or her local pregnancy help organization to find in-person help during a difficult or unexpected pregnancy.
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The contact center answers over 17,000 contacts every month from the U.S. and Canada, and now has Spanish-speaking consultants available 72 percent of every 24-hour cycle, with a 2015 goal to make Spanish-speaking consultants available 24 hours per day.
“A 24/7 pregnancy helpline has been at the very center of our life-saving vision since the day Heartbeat International was first formed,” President Peggy Harthsorn, PhD., who has served as president since 1993, said. “To see this vision become reality—and to think of the millions of lives directly rescued and impacted by Option Line—is truly satisfying and speaks volumes to the power of God and the faithfulness of our supporters over the decades.”
Hartshorn, who was recognized by Students for Life as a 2015 Defender of Life in late January, also highlighted Heartbeat International’s role in furthering the work of SOS Vita, a pregnancy helpline operated by Italian affiliate partner Movimento per la Vita, with technological upgrades and training in Heartbeat International’s Talking About Abortion resource.
Included in the 2014 milestones, Heartbeat International welcomed its first-ever affiliate in mainland China. The organization’s founding executive director, whose name is withheld for security reasons, was presented with a check for $10,000 at the 2014 Heartbeat International Annual Conference, with all funds coming by way of contribution from the network’s 1,800 affiliate organizations on every inhabited continent.
Heartbeat International’s 2014 Annual Report can be viewed in its entirety here.
Heartbeat Announces Launch of PregnancyHelpNews.com
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Wednesday | February 4, 2015
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COLUMBUS, OHIO – Seeking to unite a worldwide community made up of staff, leaders, volunteers, board members and community supporters in over 6,000 locations, Heartbeat International, the world's largest and most expansive network of life-affirming pregnancy help organizations has launched a new website, www.PregnancyHelpNews.com.
The site, which went live Jan. 19, is updated each business day with news, commentary and features, all of which affect and surround the realm of pregnancy help centers, medical clinics (with ultrasound and STI testing), maternity homes and non-profit adoption agencies.
"In our Worldwide Directory of Pregnancy Help, we list over 6,000 pregnancy help organizations," Heartbeat International Vice President Jor-El Godsey said. "Our goal with PregnancyHelpNews.com is to create a specific source of information and sort of first-stop homepage to connect these life-affirming friends around the day's news that specifically impacts the courageous work in which they are involved every day."
While promotion of the site has been largely confined to the nearly 2,000 organizations affiliated with Heartbeat International, PregnancyHelpNews.com garnered over 1,000 unique page views Monday, Feb. 2.
The top-read news story on the site is of a mother whose baby was saved through the collaboration of Abortion Pill Reversal and a Southern California pregnancy center after the mother had taken the first round of the abortion pill, RU-486. Readers are also invited to register and interact on a free conversation forum.
"One element we are especially excited to bring to the table with this site is its focus on pregnancy centers and the work they do," said Editor-in-Chief Jay Hobbs, who is joined in leadership by Senior Writer Kirk Walden, long-time publisher of Advancement Trends in the Life Community.
"We see PregnancyHelpNews.com as an excellent bridge, where anyone involved in the pregnancy help community can point friends and potential supporters and say, 'This is what we do. This is our world.'"
Heartbeat International President Responds to NARAL, Government Strategy Against Pregnancy Centers
"This is one more evidence that pregnancy help organizations are winning the battle for life."
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Wednesday | January 14, 2015
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COLUMBUS, OHIO – Responding to a report from LifeSiteNews.com uncovering an ongoing plan between the Maryland chapter of NARAL Pro-Choice America and the public officials in Montgomery County, Md., to impede or eliminate pregnancy help organizations, Heartbeat International President Peggy Hartshorn, Ph.D., pointed to the success of pregnancy centers in her companion article at LifeSiteNews.com.
Read LifeSiteNews.com Report Here: https://www.lifesitenews.com/news/exclusive-e-mails-reveal-maryland-officials-collaborating-with-naral-to-shu
Read Peggy Hartshorn’s Response Here: https://www.lifesitenews.com/opinion/why-do-abortionists-go-to-such-lengths-to-eliminate-us-because-we-threaten
“Heartbeat International and our worldwide network of life-affirming organizations believe no mother should feel so alone, so vulnerable, or so coerced that she ends her child’s life through abortion,” Hartshorn, who has served as Heartbeat International’s President since 1993, wrote. “These vital organizations enable a mother to make a true choice through a variety of services, including ultrasound, options counseling, maternity housing, and the ability to make an adoption plan.”
“And this is why we pose such a threat to NARAL and company. It’s not just that we are their competition. It’s that we are winning.”
Hartshorn’s comments come in the wake of the publication of an email string dating back as far as 2009, obtained via the Freedom of Information Act, which capture ongoing strategy between Maryland’s NARAL chapter president Jodi Finkelstein and current Montgomery County Council president George Leventhal.
The pair discussed the County’s ongoing strategy to compel government speech from Heartbeat International affiliate Centro Tepeyac Silver Spring Women’s Center. Montgomery County first passed a city ordinance Feb. 2, 2010 requiring, “limited service pregnancy resource centers” – any facility that does not perform abortions – to post a sign in English and Spanish in its waiting room saying that “the Center does not have a licensed medical professional on staff” and that “the Montgomery County Health Officer encourages women who are or may be pregnant to consult with a licensed health care provider.”
A lawsuit brought by Alliance Defending Freedom on behalf of Centro Tepeyac resulted in three separate court victories, which finally resulted in the County dropping its unconstitutional ordinance and paying Centro Tepeyac $375,000 in legal fees.
“Pregnancy help organizations like Centro Tepeyac exist so that every mother can feel loved and supported during her pregnancy,” Hartshorn said. “The only opponents to this mission are those who, like NARAL, stand to gain financially and ideologically by the intentional killing of a child within the womb.”
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April's Story
April and Derrick
At seventeen and a half I joined the Military and started to get a little taste of freedom. I was sent to training with the North Carolina National Guard, when I fell in love with my now husband of twelve years. He was in the Navy and left to be stationed in California. You’re now saying, “How is that a great testimony, and how does the second chance come into play?” The guy I fell in love with was not the guy my parents wanted for me. Why not? Let me tell you. Biracial relationships were not allowed in the family - period.
So when I came home from training, I had to make a choice - my family or my African American boyfriend. I choose my family. Months later I turned eighteen and made a choice to move out of my family’s home which gave me more freedom to do what I wanted to do. I started to drink underage, do drugs, and party. I also still had feelings for my boyfriend that I was told I could not be with. We reconnected and fell in love again with a long distance relationship. I was headed down a path that was not pleasing to God, or my family, and was very empty.
The life I was now living included drinking, drugs and non-marital sex which kept me from facing reality and I thought I “had it all.” I lived by myself, paid my own bills and had a great relationship with my family. I was also able to have a relationship with my boyfriend without my parents knowing. Well, that was until my boyfriend came for a visit for a week or so. One night we went to a club with his friends and mine and were drinking a lot. That night changed my life forever. Yes, that was the night I conceived my son Derrick. I found out about four to five weeks into the pregnancy but I continued to live the same lifestyle.
I was running scared. I was scared that I would lose my family and scared that my boyfriend would leave me. I mean, why would he care? We only talked on the phone and saw each other a few days out of the year. Now at the age of twenty, I found myself pregnant, scared and alone. How can I keep it all? I loved my boyfriend and my family at the same time. I did not want to lose any of them. The only person that knew was my best friend. In my mind I was trying to come up with a fix. I had two options- keep the baby and lose my family and boyfriend, or abort and no one had to know. I could go on with my life and still be loved by all.
One day I found out about LifeLine Pregnancy Help Center. I did not know too much about it, but knew it had “help” in its name. I walked into the doors and that is where the love begins. They talked to me and I felt cared for. My heart changed when she (my client advocate) handed me a tiny silicone baby in my hand. I held it and studied it; I still remember her saying “this is how big your baby is.” I questioned “How? I’m just a few weeks pregnant” - but it was true. My baby had a heartbeat. He had my DNA. He was a boy, and had hands and feet. My mind changed in a matter of an hour; I could not ever hurt my child. I choose to tell Raymond, the father. It went better than what I thought it would. He was so happy he was going to be a dad!
I chose to hide my pregnancy from my family, but they found out and disowned me and my unborn child. The pain I felt was real, it hurt, but I loved them so much and wanted them to be a part of their grandchild’s life. That did not happen. I had to do this by myself, with a long distance relationship with the father. That is where Life Line Pregnancy Help Center stepped in. I started taking classes and watching videos on how the pregnancy was going and how to take care of a baby. They provided me an option to “earn while I learned.” At six months into my pregnancy, my appendix ruptured and my son’s life and mine were in great danger. I fought hard and gave up everything to keep my son and there was no way I was giving up now. Going through this and being in the hospital for weeks made me question myself again. I had no family to help out if something was to happen to me. I fought and pulled through and my son defied all odds and made it too.
I gave birth to my son on June 10, 2001. He was so cute! That day I found a love that I had never found before. I would give up everything all over again for him. When my son was a few weeks old, I made a choice not to return to work and move to Gulfport, MS with his dad. His father’s face lit up the moment that he met his son for the first time. On March 1, 2002, when Derrick was only nine months old, Raymond and I were married. Being married to someone in the military is a job of its own - moving a lot of times to many different states. In 2003, I got the unexpected news of my grandmothers passing. I was not sure how to attend the funeral, and not upset my parents by attending. To my surprise, my father pulled me aside in front of my husband and child and wanted to mend the relationship. That was the second best day of my life. He was able to see and talk to his grandson and son-in-law.
On May 13, 2004, we brought a beautiful daughter named Hailey into this world. While being focused on being a good mother to my children, going on with my life and just living day to day, I did not put my trust in God. I finally realized it made my life a lot easier when I put my faith in God and allowed him to take control of my family’s lives. To the present day I am thankful for God, LifeLine Pregnancy Help Center staff, and family for supporting me and never giving up. I believe my experiences in life have played a sufficient role in helping other expecting mothers with their labor and delivery. I currently am working as a Doula in my community. May God’s love shine through me and play a sufficient role in their lives.